Published on February 13th, 2014 | by Kristen Sarah2
In a Relationship? Take a Solo Adventure
Thinking about taking a trip but have been putting it off because your partner can’t take the time off or isn’t interested in visiting the same destination as you? Our friend Kristen from Hopscotch the Globe shares why and how to travel solo even when you’re in a relationship:
Travelling solo is a must-have experience. It forces you to make your own decisions without relying on someone else to make them for you or persuade you with their input. You get to know yourself so in depth that what you thought you liked or disliked changes, and you are forced to bare witness to your strengths and weaknesses. Going through all of this allows for personal growth. In fact, there is no way you can’t learn and grow after a solo adventure.
Now if you are in a committed relationship, does that rule out the option to travel solo? From someone who has been in a committed relationship with the same person for 9 years, I say absolutely not!
If I calculate the amount of travelling I’ve done solo while with my partner, it would tally well over a year. Add another four years of living two hours apart from each other into the mix, and we have now become experts at long distance relationships.
Deciding to travel solo rather than as a unit has made our relationship much stronger.
Travelling solo has given us the freedom to pursue things independently and experience things for ourselves. This is so necessary for personal growth. We have allowed each other to embrace our own freedom without the “restrictions” society might say come with a relationship. The truth is, there are no rules and no one should prevent you from fulfilling a dream or restrict your from embracing your own independence. The worst excuse I’ve ever heard for not doing something you truly want is, “because my partner doesn’t want to do it with me.”
My partner and I have never held each other back from fulfilling a dream and instead support each other wholeheartedly. Learning to trust the other person is a hard lesson to learn but if you agree to be honest and share everything, no matter what it is, then you will only build a strong healthy relationship. Don’t get me wrong, my partner and I have had our ups and downs, but instead of going our separate ways, we have dealt with the hardships. As a result, we are more in love and stronger than ever.
I have really enjoyed my solo adventures around the world because they have allowed me to learn a lot about the person I am and who I want to be. They have challenged me to be more social with people and make more friends. I find that I immediately make more friends on the road when I travel solo because I chat with everyone, everywhere. When I am with my partner, we absolutely make friends and chat with many people but there are also times when we are having our own conversations and enjoying each other that we have missed out on meeting someone new. This is not a bad thing at all, just different.
Ask yourself this:
Why must things change when we are in a relationship? Why must we do EVERYTHING together? Based on my own personal experience, I believe that keeping your own independence is what is most important in maintaining a long, strong, and healthy relationship. There’s that saying that once you find your “other half,” that will be it! I believe that once you find that other whole who you will be fine living without, but would much rather live with, is when you have struck gold.