You have been dating that special someone for some time now, and you are ready to take your relationship to the next level. Travelling can allow you to get to know your partner in a way that nothing else can. It can be a true test for your relationship and either pull you apart or bring you closer than ever. After all, when you are spending 24/7 with each other while battling hardships, stomach bugs and unexpected situations, you are forced to learn how to live and work together.
After travelling to over 20 countries with my significant other over the past 9 years, I have some first hand advice that I would like to pass on to other couples about to take their first trip together:
Learn to Compromise
Compromise is a big part maintaining a healthy relationship. Travel forces you to make quick agreements with your partner under interesting and unexpected situations. It also makes us step out of our comfort zone and try something new.
We all have our likes and dislikes as well as things that really strike our interests and other things that may not. Your partner may love to explore museums and historical landmarks while you enjoy discovering which bakery has the best Cannoli. This does not mean you have nothing in common and your relationship is doomed to fail, it just means that you have the opportunity to try something you otherwise wouldn’t have if you were travelling alone. In fact, travel really makes you reevaluate your likes and dislikes. You may have thought you had no interest visiting the Taj Mahal, but by making a compromise to go because your partner really wanted to, you ended up being blown away by the architecture and recommending your friends to visit during their upcoming trip to India.
Give Each Other Space
While it is great to experience a new place together, spending each and every waking moment with anyone can result in overly dramatic conflicts for no good reason. The best way to prevent these small bickering matches from becoming more is to spend time making your own separate memories. Take a day or two, or even a few hours, to explore your new destination by yourself or with a new friend. Whether you are home or abroad, it is important to maintain your independence when in a relationship. When travelling with your partner, it’s very easy to become quickly dependent on them to make your decisions and lean on them in difficult situations. However, what really builds a person and their relationships is sustaining ones independence. Not only will this make you a stronger person but also a better traveller. I believe independence is one of the sexiest traits a man or woman can have. When you and your partner finally meet up again, you will have something new to share with each other, which always keeps things fresh and exciting.
Don’t Have Expectations
Whether it is the expectation that you will not fight while travelling or all your plans will go accordingly, get ride of all of those expectations because you are just setting yourself up for disappointment.
Just because you are travelling to the most romantic place on earth doesn’t mean you won’t fight. There will be times when you are tired and extra sweaty and will feel the need to take your frustrations out on your partner. Whether it is the small things or the largest things, travel does have a way of bringing up existing issues and even ones you never knew existed. This doesn’t have to be a bad thing. After all, the difference between long and short-term relationships is the ones that last aren’t because a couple is perfect; it is because they work through their issues with love and understanding. Travelling may be the relationship therapist you have been seeking.
To prevent unnecessary conflict, get rid of the expectation that your travel plans will go exactly how you envisioned. The sooner you get rid of all expectations and learn to go with the flow, the more enjoyable your time will be. If you have too many expectations, you are setting yourself up for disappointment and stupid fights with your partner that can very much be avoided. Chill out and let things unfold how they should instead of how you think they should. By not having expectations comes patience and understanding. These are three important ingredients for a long and healthy relationship as well as life in general.
At this point you may be thinking that travelling with a partner sounds to be a lot more work that you originally thought. While it can be work at times, it is mostly awesome and the most incredible thing you can do together. Travel allows you to have once in a lifetime opportunities together and moments that can never be relived but remembered forever.
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